Is Living With Yourself Simple Or Complex

Devshree Tiwari
4 min readOct 14, 2021

Questioning the question

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I will begin by asking a rhetorical question — what is life.

Let me rephrase it — what is living.

I do not want you to answer. Just feel your reaction to the question. Do not assume in a stifled space but sense in the open air that you are inhaling. When the air enters your body, it becomes you. When a sense crawls into your skin, it becomes you. But what are you?

The bustle of a city freezes the moment the mind wanders. The tranquility of hills caterwauls with chatterer inside. There are no companions in the wander; there is no audience to the chatter; the mind is ever alone. Feelings can be shared but cannot be felt by others. It can be understood but only under the limits of the other mind. Mind is always on its own to learn things it does not understand and ignore things that make sense.

Mind is simple for itself. Individuality sees and feels its content with transparency. But when there are other minds in the shared space, the sight gets muddy. The interaction with other minds that has its perception is the complexity. The mind cannot be any other way than being on its own. But there is a paradox — it searches for others to share its content. This paradox is the blueprint of our living.

There are multiple variables of living, even in its most primitive form. As the form grows, the variables further multiply. Different variables form one organism but perceiving this fact is difficult. It is hard to perceive the variability of oneness because we detach our senses from reality in the name of practicality. Once we learn how to perceive the blueprint of living inside us, we understand that it is neither simple nor complex. It is what it is.

The collective meaning assigned to the concept of practicality is errored. Why hunger is practical, but anxiety is not. We feel both. We get affected by both. Hunger is practical because there is an obvious and comparatively quicker consequence. The only criterion to evaluate practicality is instant feedback. How quickly the consequence manifest for the senses is how valuable the action is.

But we live in a process. In that process, consequences are part of the process and not the end of it. This process does not have a clock, only one window through which we take things. The processing of the perception is not time-bound. But the existence of the perception at the time of perceiving is. To understand, we must see, acknowledge, and be. Associating the understanding with the correct meaning is how we know. But what is the correct meaning: the one aligned with wellbeing.

Of course, it is all in your head, but where else can it be. The sense behind it-is-all-in-your-head encapsulates the issue at hand. The biggest problem with humanity is we ignore the obvious. Acknowledging the obvious has become a difficult task for a mind. If there are no edges, it is not worth acknowledging. This practice is simply harmful. Harmful for the mind hence the body.

A shard of glass on the floor is a problem for a barefoot leg. But shard is not the problem. One cannot treat the shard of glass. However, the legs can acknowledge it to either avoid or remove it from the floor. That is how a problem is solved. The way living is practiced, every perception is substituted; feeling things we do not want to feel; doing things we do not want to do. This substitution is a splice of multiple dysfunctional syndromes practiced for years.

Question perception whether authentic or substituted to explore and not to know. Knowing without exploration creates permanent knots in the mind that sit for years inside our fluid mind clogging the flow of growth and being. Like food needs to be integrated and processed completely to get the nutrition, the experience needs processing too. Here, it seems to get entangled with memories and present feelings, but you can always understand what goes inside your mind if you have determination.

There are books, research papers, articles on the website from which you can get help. I can write a list of books here, but a list is not needed. What’s needed is relevant help for a specific problem. We all are different. The same problem can be felt differently by individuals. Once the problem is understood and there is will to solve it, the way to the relevant help is paved. Only you know it well. Only you can fix it. Have the determination to resolve the problem, look for help (it’s always available, you only need to reach out to the right source), and question.

Questioning the questions is how we get to the simplicity of living complexity.